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 Long hours, their value, poor quality of modern men - such reasons for his solitude mention contemporary families. But if they themselves closer to the modern and the traditional singiel spinsters?According girls and bachelors. These include the Ela, Mayka, Julia and Carolina - four strong, attractive, intelligent woman. All have a good job, own home, an interesting concern. Why, then, as some 2.5 million other women, they can not find this one? And whether they are still the traditional old lady, and now modern? Great love experienced 33-year-old Mayka. This tall brunette with a short haircut working in the warehouse The impression that it has a formidable force: The daily commute to work by bicycle for half of Warsaw, and if you will go to the relevant company, able to dance all night. With such an energy level should not have problems with simultaneous work and building lasting relationships. Relationship, in which Mayka has lived for four years, it seemed to be very durable. - We had shared an apartment, car, and even fixed the date of the wedding - she remembers. Did not work out. Mayka is currently " of choice" for two years. Is satisfied with their status. - She took a loan, bought the apartment. Well I advise you - "he said. Does not preclude another long relationship, but perhaps this is premature. - I think even now I go with the distance to the contact with men, although I avoid them - reserves. - but so far not trusted anyone enough to involve longer. Sociologist shares the reasons why more and more women living alone in the four groups: - First, the modern concept of femininity is ambiguous, you do not need to be already married and mother to be a woman - he says. - Now you can be, for example, businesswoman, and still feel as a woman. And being easy being a businesswoman, as singiel is exempt from all marital duties. Has time for himself. - Secondly, in today's society more and more is a free women's work at home - he adds. - As far as Aristotle once glorified the work of women in the home, saying that it is essential to existence, it still does not even say that she works at home, only the "busyness". In this situation, the emancipation of women want the labor market. And again, it helps being singiel. - Thirdly, culture is also so-called old wives 'occupations, the characteristics of old wives, old wives' affairs - is calculated. - Being male, that is, for example, participation in the labor market, the better valued. In connection with the emancipation of women want to occupy space previously belonging to men. It is easier to pursue this objective while singiel. The fourth reason concerns both women and men. - In today's society, more difficult to tie lasting relationships . - Very easy to establish relations professional or social events. By contrast, a much more difficult, we have relationships with serious emotional-erotic. Immature, irresponsible, uneducated - You can be considered as the control of the blame on the other side, but there is something wrong with today's guys - says Julia, then thought for a long time, incurring a cigarette at an open window ( "organic, Jim Jarmusch, such piles" - interjects). - Some adult children us overgrown. I have a few such in the company. Professionally sensational: capable, trained, on the border workaholism. Socially - completely. Dotage somehow. Homo ludens the Distance. After working party or at tennis, either Contracting in the network and through the night may play a computer game. I know, because we meet at business events, and this is the main subject of conversation. Entertainment today men do not differ so much from the entertainment boys. Among the disadvantages of modern men Julia also lists the inability to take responsibility in their private lives. - Recently, I met an interesting guy - he says. - Works as a graphic designer, but acknowledged that the latest computer game, in which he played was Tetris, at age 15. After several meetings, I told him casually that I was a child. He was very excited by this news. We arranged for the weekend. The beginning was sensational. It seemed that the guys give on the same wavelength. But it lasted an hour or two. Then the big boy bored little boy, just like a little boy, bored with a new toy. Besides, then it turned out that it was the same as everyone else. Only instead of computer games played in the climbing equipment. I was with him for some time, but for entirely different reasons - he smiles mysteriously. Serious reservations about the maturity of today's men have also Carolina. Notes that while women are strong, and were pressing forward, the men are "somehow such staggering, they do not know what they want, unhappy." Theoretically, it would seem that if there are so many singles and singiel then each would find a pair - he said. - But how you look at some of you are overwhelmed with horror. Most single women I know happy with someone, if it were. Except that since they themselves are strong, it is looking for someone I could have a partnership arrangement. They do not dream of a situation in which, after returning from work will strive, clean up and shove her husband food under his nose. Education is, according to Carolina next "problem" in the search for a partner. Her flat shelves filled with books. In addition to a large collection of detective stories and romances, literature heavyweight: philosophy, history, many Russian, French and English novels in the original. Carolina holds a three faculties gained from studies in Bialystok, Moscow and Paris. Among her friends alone such a high degree is almost a norm. - I have read that more women are being educated, the more limited the chances of finding a partner - he says. - It's probably also my case is not to be with someone who grows up to me, not intellectual level. Mayka not speak directly about the immaturity of men, but the story of the dissolution of its union is a classic case of fear of man before the bond is permanent. - The split came out of his hand - Mayka said. - He wanted to rest, he began to fear that he suffocated. He accused me that confine him, which seemed strange, because both are working in the professions and not spent with you 24 hours a day. Causes of "softness" of modern men sees the "change in the pattern of man." - A man no longer has to be macho to be a man - he notes. - So easier to find the guys "soft" and, since may be like this, often. Meanwhile, hard woman, which is today singiel looking for a hard guy. And besides, Polish are now better educated, live longer and therefore more difficult for them to find a partner who would attain to the level of their intellectual, professional, or level of education. Yet none of these nice, nice, well-educated businesswoman will not want to be associated with the primitive, which also have a nurse. I'm working like crazy - Why am I alone? - Asks Julia, 37-year-old creative director of the reaching arm red hair in one of Warsaw's advertising agencies. Red lipstick perfectly fits with a soft red frame sunglasses from Dolce & Gabbana shades, and a poster abstract for one of the walls of her office, where we meet. Julia admits that despite a number of shorter or longer relationships (the longest lasted for 2 years and ended with the birth of my son. Dear father moved a few months after birth. And very well. ") Do not get along with her men. - Can I have such a character? Maybe subconsciously pick the wrong? Maybe I can not compromise? - Wonders. - This is the last for sure. And besides, I work like crazy, often several hours a day. During the recent finalization of the project, even slept in the company, and my 4-year-old son I sent to my sister. When I have more time, my son will spend it. Such a lifestyle is certainly not conducive to building a relationship. The youngest of my Ella who is 29 years old ( "The horror!" - Says jokingly). This attractive, dynamic short blonde hair was also cut in several relationships, more or less constant. "- At this moment I am alone, I never met anyone with whom I would like to share life - he says. - Perhaps this ever change. The truth is that in my family men somehow can not warm place. Mean and once they're. We assume that there is no sense that tire. - The second truth is that we really spend most of the time - he adds. Ela is also a specialist in a large telecommunications company, and co-owner of a smaller media company. - I do what I like, I see no reason why I would have with this - he says. Great love Also, 44-year old Carolina does not save the job. This small blonde have executed a major role: head of human resources department in a large group-car. However, the reasons for his solitude he sees elsewhere. - I wanted to be aware that this is a great love - declares. - Some women feel that at some point in life you find her husband. For many, this period is, for example, studies. I do not at all I had. Perhaps not inoculated me that at home. And secondly, is the question of values. I do not know whether to marry without being sure that it is this. I suspect that most people do not have similar misgivings. Maybe I read too many books? - Wonders. |
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