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 Every year, the State Underground women gaining more than 100 thousand new citizens of. Carolina bequeathed to him three times. When Carolina opened the door of his apartment I experience a strange experience. I see a smile from ear to ear, blonde woman with a long tail and large gestational belly. Leaning out from behind the skirts have a two-year head girl, with a slightly smaller braids.
Hovers around the flavor of strawberry jelly. Chillout music in the background. Like a normal family situation. But this is not what I expected. After I came into the meeting with a woman who has become pregnant three times removed. Boulder in the belly Carolina does not surprise me a surprise. Knows that according to the universal conviction of a woman after an abortion is more suitable image of a "neglected, , bottomless misery wrapped in essence, that touched the great drama." The standard description of this kind of women serving in an article from the weekly "Sunday": "Life after an abortion can not be described. Fills them with bitterness, resentment, guilt, crying at the sight of screaming kids "- the author writes. In the same vein speak and representatives of the more progressive communities, such- I believe that abortion is a tragedy for every woman - says visitor. 30-year-old Carolina is the exact opposite of this gloomy picture. Despite the advanced state of pregnancy is moving briskly about the kitchen preparing tea and coffee. In the meantime jelly under the nose "to his Often smiling. - Abortion was not a drama for me. None of them - declares. - The real misfortune for me were pregnancies. Especially the first.Caroline was 18 years and the first sexual partner. Intercourse became one of the last group of girls from her social life in a residential village near Warsaw, where she lived then. - But as I started it from a high C - he says with a laugh. Carolina discovered a new, exciting world of sex and used it extensively for a full three months. - One day I came home from the event and began to vomit like mad - she remembers. - My father was mad. He accused me that I drank too much alcohol and be poisoned. Except that the weekend passed, and no vomiting. Colleague advised me to do the test. Then I realized that the poisoning was a more optimistic version of events. Carolina still remembers "damn heavy stone" in which her stomach turned when the next test control lines, the latter appeared, indicating pregnancy. Then the drama began. - The first few days I was completely paralyzed - he says. - No I ate, drank no, no, I thought. Simply not alive. Not a trace of maternal instinct of the awakening. Only panic. Prior to his father that me to death, but never hit me, before my mother, I would die, although she has such a nature that someone dies every other day, so rather that it survived. And before that, I will break their own lives and end up under the bridge. The latter is a quote from my mother. She repeated it to me whenever I returned home with the wrong assessment of what has happened but rarely. Rarely, because Carolina was beating a student in the class of high school social good school. Came from a good, prosperous home. For two years, was driving, since a certificate for Advanced English CAE, and two months in close national forefront of historical Olympics. She was convinced that such girls as she is does not happen. Every day, fear, depression and despair deepened. - Drama girl with so-called good family and so-called good area lies in the fact that I really do not have to tell someone about it - he says. - In fact, my town is not much different from the first the village better, which feed on all the gossip. Condemnation is a general and definitive. Or so you think, as you are 18 years old. I knew that I wanted and I have to remove the pregnancy, but how I had to know how to do it? Decided to talk about your situation with a best friend. Hit the jackpot. - My friend was then president of local school and an even better student than me. Today is a producer on television - says Carolina. - As we can see, the organization has the capacity in the blood. She arranged everything for her aunt, who is a doctor, although with a different specialization. It's strange, but when I learned that everything is settled, I felt a great peace of mind, although perhaps I should not. The same calm, perhaps even more so, I felt, when it was all over. The calm and relief to be accompanied by women after an abortion she had heard repeatedly from his, who along with shot a documentary film "Underground State women". Its goal is removal of abortion from the underground. Heroines of the film, which premiered October 13 this year, eight women, who in different periods of his life and for various reasons have illegal abortions. - Both during the talks for the film and in correspondence that we receive after the premiere of the women speak of relief . - I always say that the decision was important and often difficult. But not always, it is a tragedy. Rather, it is often unwanted pregnancy. Persons who call the tragedy of abortion, rarely want to see an unwanted pregnancy as a tragedy. Women's difficult, often painful experience of abortion is the liberation of the different dramatic situation also stresses that, among pregnant women is dominated by removing the sense of loneliness. - Women are afraid to talk about this, because after the first abortion is a crime which carries a prison, and secondly, the social taboo - he says. - And if at all it is not talking, it subjects to an abortion a woman has a sense that this is a very exceptional case that it's just happened to her. This is a very wrong impression. Act of 1993 virtually brought abortion into the basement, so there are no official figures, but according to estimates each year make it more than 100 000 women. Federation for Women and Family Planning determines the number at 130, 000, 180 000 estimates say up to 200 000. Officially, and in light of the law in 2008 499 abortions were carried out. Help the devil To experience solitude in the vast reaches of abortion guilt. Opponents of abortion to subjecting women to this treatment works the hardest, putting it in a number of Nazi criminals and calling i Satan. After the famous trial of Alice Thousand, by which she received 25 000 euros compensation for the fact that a few years earlier refused a reasonable legal abortion, the newspaper "Guest Sunday" published a series of articles suggesting that he is frustrated the killer. Newspaper lost its case against a lawsuit by a woman and had to pay her 30 000 USD redress. But in dozens of other cases, charges authors do not assume any consequences. In September, the Policy of the commented on his blog a decision determining the case of Alice Thousand court, compared to women of illegal Nazi criminals in the following words: "This comparison is really unfair, but for the criminals of the SS, who murdered some 6 million people while at least 10 times as much. " In a similar vein, the Foundation Pro and the Order of the Knights of Columbus organized in September in the main square, exhibit anti-abortion pro-life (for life). The exhibition consisted of photographs of children massacred together with images of genocide from Rwanda and former Yugoslavia, and dead whales or monkeys. Women find it difficult to understand in the church. In last year's list, on the occasion of Lent,, wrote that the promoter of abortion and euthanasia is Satan. "The devil is continually seeking the destruction of his colleagues - cleric warned in a letter. - I understand that I am to be the co-worker - content of the letter Caroline, who admits that he is "very moderate, increasingly skeptical, on average practicing Catholic." - Since I live in Poland, according to the local population a sinner, but if I lived in Britain, I would have been for that society's OK. Does this mean that all Brits will go to hell? Or that all the ancient Greeks and Romans went to hell, because he perpetrated an abortion? Indeed, the Greek philosophers perpetrated abortion, and Roman law decided to make the abortion the head of the family. What's more, the first one thousand years of existence of the Catholic faith Carolina could be an abortion without any repercussions from the authorities of the church: only in 1140 Bologna jurist Gratian constructed the first code of canon law, in which abortion is defined as murder, but only if the fetus is formed. It's still a long way to the current situation where the church is not only prohibits abortion from the moment of conception, but also emergency contraception. Anyone to help After the first raid Carolina or thought applied to church prohibitions. The first "would-be father" parted shortly after abortion. She never learned. When started living with another, a colleague from the law set tough conditions, "only with a condom." - I do not know how it happened - says the moment when two years later he again saw on your test gestational two dashes. Stone in the stomach again, again and again the terrible fear of paralysis. But briefly. - I already knew yet what to do - he says. - I still had the number of that doctor. Caroline admits that for a moment she wondered whether it would not be born child. But it still was not good timing. - I was in my second year of study. My parents insisted. I had so many plans - he says. He mentions the second treatment, as "tracing paper first." - The same study, certainly not in the basement, as might be expected, but the neat bright room with window to the garden - she remembers. - The same tact the doctor and anesthesiologist, the same lady. Hailing from a wealthy family, Caroline has never had a problem with collection of funds for treatment. Money to ensure her a nice, clean and professional service. However, in situations abortion underground, not all women are lucky enough mentions that shook her particular case of a woman who was a doctor on the Internet. - The doctor first, waited a very long time with the meeting - he says. - She has had less and less time, but still believed that a doctor will carry out an abortion. Promised that he will carry out a very cheap treatment, almost socially, which was important for her because I did not have the money. Appointed at the end of one of Warsaw's hospitals. She waited there for her A certain Mrs Maria, who had lead her to the doctor. However, instead of the doctor's surgery, took her to the waiting room where we were sitting with newborn children. Wore her fingers in the hands of such and said: "And you want to kill such a child." She managed to escape from there. Because of the delays the game has lost a lot of time, but eventually she managed to carry out treatment - said. Same procedure described the heroine of the film before the camera: - It was awful - he says. - He was there alone. There was no one to help. And yet I asked me to hold some tools, he himself does not give advice. And I helped. I kept some metal objects and a bucket. It's a nightmare. It was awful. Another of the main characters' state of the Underground women "have to pay for the illegal treatment 4000 USD: - It was a horrible amount - says in the film. - The next day I arrived with the money. There came a moment when I saw that not only what has been seen in the first debate, but also because she had a problem with issuing me the rest. Just that I was scared |
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